How To Rebuild Trust With Someone You Hurt

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Sometimes we make big mistakes that hurt the people we love. Learning how to rebuild trust with someone you hurt is possible, but it’ll take some work.
We all make mistakes. Most are relatively small and can be overlooked by the people around us. However, there are some mistakes with huge consequences. And if you’re asking how to rebuild trust with someone you hurt, it was probably big.
You may want to know how to rebuild trust with someone you hurt, but depending on what happened, you may not be able to rebuild the relationship. Keep your chin up though, there’s nothing wrong with giving it a solid try. Can you mend a broken heart?
#1 Be honest with yourself.
 You need to get your facts straight and come clean with yourself. It’s not easy accepting your actions, but if you want to fix the relationship, you’re going to have to do this first. Knowing what you did was wrong and taking fault is a crucial step. If not, you’re not doing this for the right reasons.
#2 Talk to a third-party.
 Before you approach this person, talk to someone you trust. Sometimes this can help you see the wrongdoing in your actions or they can help you release the emotions behind your actions. You may have pent up anger, sadness, and frustration, so relieving these emotions beforehand is a good idea.
#3 Meet up with them.
 No, not over Whatsapp or FB messenger. You need to meet up with them in person. You screwed up, right? So now you need to confront them face-to-face if you want any chance of rebuilding trust with them. You cannot be a coward in this situation or else they’ll never accept your apology.
#4 Are you actually feeling bad?
 If you are apologizing because you feel forced to, then don’t apologize. You’re clearly not understanding the full extent of your actions or feel remorse for what you did.
You can only apologize when you truly feel that you screwed up. The situation would be making you feel horrible. Saying “I’m sorry,” doesn’t mean a damn thing unless there’s emotion behind it.
#5 Soul searching time. 
If you’re wondering how to rebuild trust with someone you hurt, before you talk to them, you need to do some serious soul searching. You can’t talk about why you did what you did unless you actually know why. You need to look within and really find the root cause of your actions. Was it out of jealousy? Fear? Insecurity?
#6 Be open.
 These are huge steps you’re making and I’m proud of you. It’s not easy pointing out our own flaws. I know, we all have egos. In this case, it needs to be done. When you’re talking to the person, make sure you remain open and communicative. They’re going to do a lot of talking and you need to listen with empathy. Don’t judge them. You don’t like being judged, right?
#7 Make the conversation meaningful.
 This is a great opportunity for you to make use of the conversation. You’re both open and listening to each other which is great. You came clean, you talked about what happened, and now it’s time to heal the broken trust.
When everyone has calmed down, it’s now your turn to talk about why and what you did. Remember, don’t blame the victim, use the conversation as a way to show them you’ve learned from your mistake.

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